The apartment we found in Tenerife, and where we`ll live until the event, is just 50 meters from the ocean. Something I always dreamed of. I can actually see the progression of the tides, beautiful sunrises and the clear blue water right from the balcony and even from the bedroom. All in all, a dream that came true. But after a few weeks here, I realized something that bothered me a little.
In order to explain, let me ask you something. Have you ever watched a movie in which the main character lived in an amazing villa that faced the ocean and felt a bit of envy? Honestly.
I did. I remember a scene from Seven Pounds, where Will Smith comes out of ocean after a swim and enters his amazing house located somewhere on the shores of the Atlantic (or was it the Pacific?). When I watched the scene I remember thinking that if some day I`m going to live that way, I`m going to swim in the ocean every day.
Fast-forward three or four years later and I`m kind of living my dream. I don`t live in a villa, yet, but the ocean is a very short walk away. The water is not very warm, but not cold either, and I might say it`s quite suitable for a swim (amazing, as it is December).
So how many times did I swim in 3 weeks? Once! Just once, and just for about 5 minutes.
This stroke me as a little odd and after more than a moment`s thought I reached a few conclusions:
- Some dreams are half-bullshit.
I chased something I did not know how it would feel. With some things I want I just know that it will feel good and it usually does. With others I am wrong. So for every dream it helps to test the waters (pun intended) and see if you would like more of that dream, and not just a small piece of it. So, for example, if you want to be a digital nomad and travel as a lifestyle, you should probably try to live abroad for a just a few weeks or a month before trying to do it for a few years. Just to get a taste and see if it is for you or not.
- Effort does not stop after you achieved you dream.
I`m here, but going for a swim requires some effort. I actually enjoy swimming and snorkeling, but sometimes I`m too lazy to go to the water or I find excuses. The point is that even after you feel you achieved the dream, you still need to put in some effort in order to actually enjoy it!
- Add people.
My dream was a solitary dream. I imagined myself going alone for a swim in the morning in some kind of meditative experience. But the most fulfilling experiences come from sharing happy moments with other people. When I did go for a swim, I actually went with my girlfriend and the experience was much more enriching and pleasant that way.
Not all dreams are bullshit, but it helps to question them a bit and see if you really want them. Put in the effort to achieve them, but also to live them fully. Test the waters before setting a goal and make sure you have someone to share the fruits of your success with.
Travelling and living as a digital nomad was a dream for me. But it`s much more fulfilling when I can share that dream with amazing people, even if that requires some more effort. And that`s why I love the concept of co-working and co-living in an exotic location, it has a bit of everything and makes fulfilled dreams taste better.
In the end it`s all about being honest with yourself. The most important kind of honesty you could hope for.